About us

Thom Watson and Jeff Tabaco first discovered each other’s blogs in early 2003, while both men were living in the Washington, D.C., metro area. After reading and commenting for a few months, they first met in person that June, and have been together ever since.

Thom and Jeff registered as domestic partners in the State of California on Friday, February 13, 2009, and became engaged the following evening, on Valentine’s Day, in Carmel. On Saturday, September 26, 2009, surrounded by friends and family, they celebrated their lifelong commitment to each other with a commitment ceremony at the Cliff House in San Francisco. The couple was not able to marry at that time due to California’s Prop 8.

After a five-year court case, the unconstitutional Prop 8 finally was struck down in June 2013. On the first day that same-sex couples again were able to legally marry in California, Thom and Jeff went to San Francisco City Hall to apply for their wedding license. They were finally legally married on Thursday, September 26, 2013, four years to the day from their 2009 commitment ceremony, and the couple returned to the ocean-side Cliff House Terrace Room two days later, on one of the most beautiful days of the year, for a wedding reception with over 100 of their family and friends.

Thom and Jeff at Stanford Memorial Church

Thom and Jeff at Stanford Memorial Church

From the blog

Wedding ceremony: The script

After our congresswoman regretfully had to cancel as our officiant, due to the ongoing federal budget crisis, our good friends John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney stepped in as co-officiants, and we were so very fortunate to have them be the ones to marry us. Listen to the audio and read the script of our wedding ceremony at San Francisco City Hall.

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Wedding music: The playlist

Tune in to our wedding reception playlist (on Spotify or Google Play Music All Access), have your own dance party, and imagine yourself on that beautiful terrace by the sea…

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Wedding art: The avatars
Wedding art: The avatars

September 30, 2013 1 comment

The avatars that are used throughout our wedding design and decor were originally known as “Thomlet” and “Jefflet.” These cartoon versions of ourselves found themselves visiting sites all over virtual San Francisco, as well as cooking in, working out, and relaxing at home in Daly City.

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Wedding art: Jeff and Thom Happy Together 2.0 wedding cubees

Print, cut, fold and play with us! Yes, you can make your very own Thom and Jeff Happy Together 2.0 wedding cubees, and do with them as you will.

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Our commitment ceremony: The soundtrack

Three musicians played and sang live during our ceremony. And, as one of the wedding favors, we designed and burned CDs that included selections from our ceremony and from our wedding playlists, grouped thematically.

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Our ceremony: The script

The full text of our wedding ceremony. SARA is Sara Hickman, Texas State Musician of the Year for 2010. SHELDON, our officiant, is Sheldon Menery, Thom’s best friend for about the past 20 years.

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